Tidewater Classical Academy

Teaching the Tools of Learning

The Good Dad

Being a good Dad is tough.

  Here's some quotes, comments, and books to help out.


My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard.  Mother would come out and say, "You're tearing up the grass." "We're not raising grass," Dad would reply. "We're raising boys." - Harmon Killebrew.


A father carries pictures where his money used to be. - Author Unknown




Time with the Wise Guy


This is a great way to share biblical truths with your kids. I did this with my my boys when they were about 7 to 9 years old. We called it Time with the Wise Guy, a fun but meaningful way to share the wisdom of Solomon (get it? the Wise Guy) with your children. Once a week (or twice a week, or whatever works for you), select a few verses from Proverbs. Spend about 20 minutes reading the verses, studying a commentary or two, and praying for guidance from the Lord.


Then, pick a night and get your kids into bed a half-hour earlier than usual: the next half-hour is Time with the Wise Guy! Ask your child (or children) to read each verse, and ask him what he thinks it means. Give him some time to work through it. Instead of interpreting it for him right away, ask him questions to try to lead him to the truth. Questions are a great way to encourage learning...ask Socrates!


Here are resources that might be helpful to you:


How to Read Proverbs by Tremper Longman (InterVarsity Press)

Reformation Study Bible edited by RC Sproul (Ligonier Ministries)



[Contributed by Mike Pregitzer - TCA Ex-Officio Board Member]



How to Diaper a Baby - Spread the diaper in the position of the diamond with you at bat. Then, fold second base down to home and set the baby on the pitcher's mound. Put first base and third together, bring up home plate and pin the three together. Of course, in case of rain, you gotta call the game and start all over again. - Jimmy Piersal



Story Time


Good stories open a child's mind to adventures, warn them of wickedness, and inspire them to achieve great things.  For kids, good stories are more than just an added extra to their education.  They are the chief way that God teaches us, as seen clearly in the Scriptures - a long series of adventure stories, strung together to tell the history of God, man, and His universe. 


Setting aside a little time each day for a 'Daddy Story Time' is a great way to give your wife a break and to invest in your children.  For Dads who are gone from home a lot (military deployment, business travel, shift work, etc.), a good substitute is recording yourself reading a story.  Happy Reading!


Horn Book Guide - A great list of classic books for kids (with descriptions).



If She Ain't Happy - I never know what to get my father for his birthday.  I gave him a hundred dollars and said, ''Buy yourself something that will make your life easier.''  So he went out and bought a present for my mother. - Rita Rudner



The Good Husband


You can't be a good dad if you aren't a good husband.  Here are some books by Pastor Doug Wilson to help us all stay on target.  WARNING:  Reading these books could radically change your view of marriage and the family.  Just remember - we warned you!


Here's something from Mike's blog.


Reforming Marriage - On building a biblical marriage


Other Good Books to Read With Your Wife


Standing on the Promises - A biblical handbook on childrearing

Future Men - On raising boys

Her Hand in Marriage - Dating & courtship



My Dumb Dad - When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years. - Mark Twain



Staying Connected During the Day


As a father who works all day, there are times when I want to interact more with my kids in a meaningful way during the day. So, awhile back I asked my kids to email me at least twice a week with questions or comments about their Bible studies. I asked each of them to read his Bible for 15 minutes (anything he wants) and then send me an email with a question or comment about the reading. I set them up with a Gmail account through Google (real easy) so they would have a place from which to send and receive emails. They usually send the emails in the morning, so I can use my lunch hour to research and respond. There are lots of online Bible resources (for example, International Bible Society,Reformation 21, Matthew Henry Commentary online) or you can bring a Bible and commentary to work and keep it in your desk. Here are just a couple of examples of the questions I've gotten from my kids:

  • I read Judges chapter 1-7. Why do the Israelites always want to worship false gods? I wouldn't. 
  • At the beginning of each section (in 119) are those symbols Jewish and the word next to them is the translation? Also, what does a song of ascents mean at the beginning of each chapter (from 120-130)? I know the Bible is true, but does whoever wrote Psalm 119 do all the things he says he does? Why do they have those Jewish symbols in 119 anyway?

Their questions challenge me as well. I look forward to teaching them and they think it's cool that Dad emails them during the day. Try it! For those who are more advanced in the ways of the Internet, you could also set up a free wiki (e.g., http://pbwiki.com/) or a free blog (e.g., https://www.blogger.com/start) to facilitate the "conversations." Have fun!

[Contributed by Mike Pregitzer - TCA Ex-Officio Board Member]


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